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Good evening Travellers,

Another late night, because I go to bed early, you know 9:30 or so, because I’m apparently old and now like sleeping, unlike my 20s where I never slept and felt awesome. 3 hours tops and felt AWESOME! So after 10pm is now late…

Tonight the thought gum my brain is chewing consists of a few things, which for some reason brings to mind a scene from Sex and the City where Samantha is upset because Richard, Richard with the perfect penis, he keeps signing cards with the closing “Best” which Miranda equivocates as “Not Love”…couldn’t find it on YouTube to link, so that’s my best explanation…

I’m reading a Brene Brown book called “Rising Strong” because I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of self help books and this is number two of many to go…anyways one of the ideas that really has stuck with me is “Do you believe that everyone is doing the best they can do?” Not meaning there’s no room for self improvement but just basically we are all doing our best in this world…

Seriously, let that sink in, like on a scale larger than your household because ever since I read it, I’ve been asking everyone what they think about that…this dialogue goes on to talk about judgement and how believing that everyone is doing their best tends to relieve us from perhaps unnecessary judgement.

Those of us who are perfectionists tend to not only judge ourselves but reach out and judge others. This is very familiar to me, how about you? I keep thinking about Donald Trump in all this actually and would apply that question to him because I didn’t vote for him, I didn’t want to vote for Hillary, actually what I really want is an election where it isn’t the lesser of two evils that we vote for, but I digresss…I think Mr. Trump is in fact doing the best he can do. I may not like what he is doing or agree with what he is doing, but do you see where I’m going?

I went back to yoga when I started therapy to help facilitate more peace of mindfulness , ok, truly I thought it might help bind the EMDR for reasons I won’t go into right now. I’m not teaching, just taking class. I was reminded there on my own mat the twin virtues of compassion and non-judgement way before I even picked up this book. Compasssion and non-judgment are part of the Eight Limb path that is yoga, which is also a conversation for another time. Compassion is something I would like to see more of in this world. How about a day of compassion where we all do our best to be compassionate towards everyone we meet?

I’ve decided I think the universe is trying to reach me through all the channels or maybe I am trying to reach me because I’m not very compassionate towards myself and I hold myself responsible for all my bad choices even the ones from 20 years ago…and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this particular boat.. I work with elderly people and I can’t count the number of times I’ve had to have a conversation with someone who’s feelings have been hurt by gossip, because when you get old you apparently regress into a teenager. It’s like the movie Mean Girls but with wrinkles, or maybe Gossip Girl with wrinkles, but I always tell them the same thing: people are mean to others because they are not happy with themselves and I fully believe it.

Here’s the the last thought bubble to pop, opinion and judgement: does our society remember there is a difference between an opinion and judgment? Pause right there, opinion and judgement. It seems like people can’t differentiate between those two, do you know what I mean?? Here is an example: I believe all bodies were meant to move in some form of exercise daily. That is an opinion. No judgement is attached BUT I have had someone take it as judgment. Her interpretation was I am saying there’s something wrong with you if you aren’t working out….but that was not at all what I said, there was no inference to that AT ALL. Think about what you hear in the media and on Facebook and in general, an opinion is not an assault on you, in fact what are you going to learn in life if you can’t handle a different opinion??

But then I think about compassion and everyone doing the best they can do…

 

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