A pussy by another name would smell as sweet…

How brave are you feeling today Travellers?

Because I’m ready to have this conversation, it’s only taken me two years to get here. It’s taken me awhile to choose the arena but here we are… And really this is just a tip of the iceberg conversation. A little dalliance in etymology if you will.

Let’s talk about the word pussy and why I chose the name of my blog. I’ve had people suggest that I change the name, because of that word. It’s either inappropriate or offensive or too overtly sexual, or so I’ve been told…I’m going to go back to the start,  not because I owe you this explanation but because I owe myself and Mopsy a little bit of braveness to talk about it.

My blog is written in honor of my former guest cat Mopsy, in honor of how she moved thru this world and thru my life. (Read my earliest posts if you want to know about her.) I had wanted to return to writing and she felt like inspiration. All the things I learned from her felt like inspiration. I struggled to come up with a blog name and for some reason kept thinking of this song. LL Cool J back in the day. Yes kids, he was a rapper before an actor. I couldn’t use “The Guest Cat” because there was published work called that and that just didn’t seem to fit her or me. Around the way pussy was born.

Coincidence or not, a few months before before I decided to attempt this little endeavor, there was the whole incident I like to call, “The Pussy Heard Round the World” thanks to Mr. Trump and his political nemesis. Thanks to him for being the not awesome human who said it and to Hilary for being the not awesome human who wielded it as a political weapon. Then came the protesters in their pussy hats and all the girls who were claiming the word pussy for themselves. Like it could be scrubbed clean and given new life. Then came #metoo and all the drama that followed. I’m sure everyone is familiar with the convoluted terrain that we now live in.

So what about me?

When I hear the word pussy, I think of this scene in the movie Boomerang. I feel like it really encompasses all the reactions this word precipitates. You have the empowered woman, the shocked/appalled/in awe pedestrians and an interesting tables turned moment for the man, am I right? I’m not sure if this movie had been made now if that scene would shock anyone as I recently watched Ali Wong’s stand up and I couldn’t count the number of times she said the word pussy. Times change.

Let it be said I’m in no way shape or form a conservative human or a republican or puritanical in any way. I believe in freedom of whatever gets your flag flying, BUT I have to say I’m actually not a fan of the word pussy being used as a synonym for vagina. In fact, I would like to ask, why is it that we call all our body parts by their actual anatomical names except the genitals? When it comes to sexual organs, we can’t seem to call them by their names can we? But we’re willing to call them all kinds of other ridiculous names…Is it because vagina and penis don’t rhyme well, so musicians had to come up with something else? Is it because you think the words are just not sexy or what?  I’d argue the best times in hip hop music were a few decades back and no one referred to women as bitches in any of that music nor did any genitals get mentioned. And it as still sexy. Pussy just seems to have crept in. I think there’s more to it than that, but for now, let’s let those questions settle in….

Pussy has popped up before in culture long before the 2000s. There’s Tom Jones singing, “What’s up Pussy Cat” and my favorite, this could never happen in 2019 use of pussy, James Bond’s characters  Pussy Galore and Octopussy. I just can’t even, where and how that happened not because it’s offensive but because it’s so fucking ridiculous, isn’t it? It’s laughable but also ridiculously bordering on unacceptable.

When I hear the word pussy, I think of the Beatrix Potter character that’s the tubby kitty who’s stuffed in a little suit. Tom Kitten is his name and actually Mopsy got her nick name from that story, she’s one of his sisters. Or pussy willows, the plant, that looks like itty bitty curled up kitties on a stick. But mostly my mind still goes to Pussy Cat. Puss in Boots, who was also a cat. I know we say women have cat fights, so is that why our vaginas started getting called that name?

Granted this all just my opinion, but I think the other reason I’m not down with pussy is because it feels pornographic to me, and since I was exposed to porn at the age of what 9, which is not acceptable, I’m sure that has something to do with my feelings. I’m sure being molested by that man has something to do with it. I’m also of the mindset that porn can be very destructive to intimacy. And like the name Pussy Galore, I think porn is just ridiculously over the top. For me, not a flag flyer.

Where does that leave us? My feelings are I’m trying to bring the pussy cat back. Because I think it’s a lot braver to stand in your own thoughts and ideas then follow the crowd. Can I get a MEOW?

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